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ASU Professor disputes
'Bad Dad' image in new book
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What if one of the most significant pieces of social
data of our time was flatly wrong, the result of a glaring arithmetic
error?
Sanford Braver, Ph.D., a Psychology Professor at Arizona State
University says in his new book, Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths(co-authored
by Diane O'Connell and published by Tarcher/Putnam) that data published
in 1985 which fueled the national outrage and policy-making campaign
against divorced dads was filled with errors.
The famous data, published by Harvard sociologist Lenore Weitzman in her
book, The Divorce Revolution, purports to show that fathers actually
benefited economically from divorce while mothers and children, on
average, suffered a 73 percent drop in their standard of living. "It
would be fair to say that Weitzman's findings are the most widely known
and influential social science results of the last 20 years," Braver
said. "At first, I found myself thinking that if mothers and children
experience a 73 percent decline in living standards while men's
substantially increase after divorce, we need divorce policies that
bring more balance. But then I began questioning Weitzman's
calculations. I found almost certainly that she had mistakenly switched
around two figures. When I telephoned Weitzman to explore this
possibility, she admitted that such an error was possible. But it took
seven years until she publicly admitted her findings were erroneous."
Braver conducted an eight-year study of 400 divorcing couples in
Maricopa County, Arizona, funded by several federal grants, to trace
what he now calls the myth of the "bad divorced dad." His study revealed
several surprising findings that directly challenge current thinking
about divorced fathers. For example, he found that divorced mothers are
far more satisfied overall with the terms of their divorce settlement
than fathers are, and about three-quarters of divorces are sought by the
mothers. But his most startling result is that there is little
difference in how fathers and mothers fare economically after divorce.
While attempting to duplicate Weitzman's findings, Braver and his
colleagues discovered not only the reversing of the two figures, but
that other important factors, such as the effect of taxes and the
father's spending on the children during visitation, had never been
included in any previous calculations. When Braver included these
factors into the equation, the results showed nearly equal economic
circumstances between fathers and mothers.
"I expected these factors to narrow the gap," Braver said. "But I have
to admit I was stunned that taking into consideration something as
commonplace as taxes would virtually eliminate the gap."
Braver's book catalogs six widely accepted beliefs surrounding divorced
fathers. In addition to those previously mentioned they include that
father's don't pay much child support, that they fare better emotionally
after the divorce than mother's do, and that they don't try to visit
their children much after the divorce. After studying those beliefs
scientifically and statistically, however, they turned out to be myths.
While he found some divorced fathers who fit the stereotype, most
instead truly want to be responsible, loving fathers, debunking the
myths. He believes prevailing social attitudes and biased media coverage
have contributed to the "bad dad" image and have ultimately caused
damage to fathers, mothers and children. Based on a truer picture he
found, Braver's book suggests programs and custody policies that he
expects will remedy the severe social problems caused by the distorted
former views.
Page Location: http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/baddadmyth.htm
William
C. Klatte's "Live-Away Dads" is a reassuring and practical guide for
divorced fathers who want to remain actively involved parents. A social
worker and psychotherapist who has been a custody advisor to the
Illinois Courts, Klatte rightly counsels fathers to come to terms with
their emotions, a crucial first step toward diffusing conflict. Next, he
expertly leads fathers through the stages of setting up visitation,
cooperating with mothers to improve communication, and working on
parenting skills.
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According to the Stepfamily Association
of America, 60 percent of all families are breaking up, and custody and
visitation issues loom large in the lives of many parents. Isolina
Ricci's Mom's House, Dad's House guides separated, divorced, and
remarried parents through the hassles and confusions of setting up a
strong, working relationship with the ex-spouse in order to make two
loving homes for the kids. This expanded and revised edition (the book
was originally published in 1980) includes emotional and legal tools, as
well as many reference materials and resources. As one parent said of
the first edition, "This book is my friend."
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